JOB SEARCH STEPS

• represent yourself accurately, but connect what you’ve already done with the needs of the company while writing up the resume.
• network for the long term, nurturing your contacts in the industry, doing your best to make yourself available as a resource for these contacts, as well. authentic networker asks what he is doing right or wrong in his search & closes with a respectful comment that makes it obvious there is some give & take going on.
• prepare for the interview by studying yourself with a SWOT analysis- acts as a scaffold to add commentory about your marketable skills:

1. strenghts- what factors & influences motivated you? important personal characteristics? technical abilities? describe the problem that you worked on & the approach & results of it.
2. weaknesses- list[tip of the iceberg] the technical & background experience weaknesses in relation to to the job & esp those the interviewer most likely has already assumed, then present a positive plan to move past it.
3. opportunities & threats- what do the trends in science & business mean to you future career?
4. if its a behavioural question, answer sincerely without guessing what the interviewer is looking for.

process of networking goes on forever, in many aspects of professional life, not just at job-search time & leads to new opportunities for collaboration, invitations to lecture, unsought job offers, & even form lifelong friends. so integrate into your daily routine:

• every contact you make is a seed to a future relationship.
• be generous,give your time & expertise freely, never keep score.
• do homework: know as much as possible about your contact before you plan an introduction.
• best cold calls are to people who are just a couple of years past you in experience.
• while you may not have more than a few moments, but you never know when the recruting opportunity strikes, so never hesitate to contact the top people in your field.

the best time to build a network is before you need it. relations are the most credible expression of who you are & what you have to offer.

Filed under: INITIATIVES , IDEA, JOB

RUN FROM SIN

what are the social psychological processes that grease the slippery slope of evil-

psychology is not excusiology. understanding is not excusing. nothing is easier to denounc the evil-doer, nothing more difficult than understanding him

1. mindlessly taking the first small step[bullying,prejudice,violence is a disease, public health model not individual]
2. dehumanization of others[cleaning toilets, humiliation, degrading fellatio]]
3. deindividualization of self[numbering]
4. diffusion of personal responsibility
5. blind obedience of authority
6. uncritical confirmity to group norms
7. passive tolerance to evil through inaction/indifference
8. new/unfamiliar situation
9. habitual response patterns don’t work
10. personality,morality are disengaged
11. anonimity in uniforms/masks

ordinary day to day heroism is the antidote to evil. heroic imagination is waiting for the right situation to come along in action. to be a hero you have to be deviant because you are going against the confirmity of the soceity.

you are going to act when others are passive

you have to act socio centrically not egocentrically

so one day you will be in a new situation with choices of being a perpetuator of evil / guilty of passive inaction / you become a hero. it may happen only once in your life, and when you pass it by you will always know, i could have been a hero and i let it pass me by.

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , IDEA, SINNING

OPTIMUM TIME PROFILE

Time perspective [how we divide our experiences into time zones unconsciously] biases decision based on-

1. present momentary stimulation(hedonistic/fatalistic -gives enegy to explore),
2. past memories(-/+ gives identity roots of person),
3. future consequences(setting goals/transcend -reach new destinations, new challenges, cash on opportunities).

excess of each either ways becomes negative.

use:applied to drop-outs,addictions,resilience,suicide bombers,family conflicts, recalling the what one is good at or the good things done each day helps improve one’s self-esteem,assertiveness, creativity, empathy & engagement with others.

optimal time profile is high on past positive, moderate high on future, moderate on present hedonism, low on past negative and present fatalism. ratio to aim is 4:3:2:1

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , IDEA, ATTITUDE, PERSPECTIVE, GROWTH, AMBITIOUS, PRODUCTIVE

Job prospects

got these from marty nemko, the career counsellor:

resume-

• write resume targetting the specific employer, not the same for every job.
• list not just your skills but even chronologically, they anyway will see through so don’t hide gaps.
• tell 3-4 sentence stories about your skills, how you solved something.
• do a 30-60sec introduction vedio about yourself to be ahead of the pack.

interview-

• for questions you most dread, prepare a good ready answer
• prepare by using PAS stories :problem-approach-resolution.
• show enthusiasm with questions to ask from them [early to tear on further answers] like in this job which ends up being the single most important thing to doing it successfully.
• going in pretend “i’m the best self”. remind to shake off feeling depressed.
• moderately enthusiastic by asking at the end “am really excited about this job,is there anything about me you feel reluctant potentially to hire me”. that gives you a chance to counter any objections they raise.

promotion-

• hitch myself to a star [running into while in elevator or..]“heard great things about you, if you’re going to need extra help, i would like to join you even if its a weekend project.
• doing something core to that organization’s growth like becoming the sale’s person bringing in money.
• professional association to move up myself outside the organization.
  make some intelligent blog posts, get branding -use twitter/likedin/facebook

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , IDEA, JOB

CAN I MAKE FAIL-SAFE TO-DO LIST & INCREASE PERFORMANCE

I make every to-dos with honest hope of sticking to it whatever may come. In spite of it I falter regularly. I can’t pull my concentration together for studies on all times,even in desperate times. Why?

My personal awareness’s were as follows:

1. PSYCHOLOGICAL CHANGES -worries,plain hesitancy, dampened persistence,  bullied/negative criticisms, overwhelmed feeling.
2. PHYSICAL CHANGES -anxious nerves, tensed muscles.
3. METABOLIC CHANGES -abnormal glucose from inadequate food or junk food, constipation[apologies.. but yeah], excess sleep from sweets & sweet drinks.
4. HORMONAL CHANGES -[female thing .... well apologies again...3 days before till completion]
5. ENVIRONMENTAL CHANGES -uncomfortable seating,accessibility,clothes,  extremes of weather-heat,sultry,cold,  unsuitable atmosphere-noisy,dreary colors or texture,too much of light,clutter.

HOW TO FIX THEM:

For psychological issues -

• Keep your goals above what bugs you & time will tell “YOU COPED WELL”.
• Protect your self-esteem by never revealing your identity goals prematurely – esp those with a short deadline or when investing huge commitments.
• make a slow easier transition before shivering escape routes to decrease initiation hesitancy & increase persistence in the long run.
• search for new motivations – keep your self talk positive to encourage yourself to be part of the solution, dispute warp thoughts, decide the next action.
• vent out the turbulent thoughts by journalling & try shelving it forever with a permanent fix, forget myself by reading something random, pepping amusing memories or music.
• warm up concentration first on easy interesting subject/by photo reading the topic before the actual study, never read passively but annotate, simplify, paraphrase, illustrate, connect points without leaving anything floating, concise into keyword box.

For physical issues -

• practice heart coherence or breathing to calm down,
• revise your concise notes many times till you’re able to contrast concepts & get into flow.

For metabolic changes -

• keep a daily desk stock of fruit/nuts/curd/boiled sweet potato…,
• active playful ways of doing everything helps.

For hormonal changes -

• get done some long pending work [blogging, haircut, cleaning, rearrange] to get off the fateful stuck feeling,
• strenghten the goals [making a collage or browsing on your doubts] to not get lost.

Environmental hiccups –

• logical selection of clothes.
• declutter to create a comfortable dwelling.
• study at a new place away from usual boring routine.

Filed under: DISCLOSURE , ATTITUDE, CONCENTRATION, IDEA, PROCRASTINATION

HOW TO ENCOURAGE GOOD LEARNING.

How do we make a teacher great?

The answer is really that we don’t.

-BILL GATES (TEDspeech).

To encourage a student to study more, primary requisite is to help protect his concentration from:

1. dissipating towards external pressures:irrelevant work,unproductive activities,disturbing people.
2. struggling for internal comforts:food,environment.
3. prejudices towards learning:status qou,family heritage,boring,uncoolness about being studious..

Focus can be sustained by meeting their level of understanding through:

1. relavent surrounding info on the topic, consicely paraphrased & metaphored/diagramed notes  & clarity in language to increase effectiveness.
2. manageable course load for the assigned time.
3. integrating all subjects to supplement one another for increasing efficiency & effectiveness.
4. providing alternative resources to explore & increase awareness-Internet,reference books,exposure to success icons.
5. engaging, energetic pepping dynamic, happy atmosphere increasing self esteem & involvement.

WORK HARD, BE NICE  -book about good teachers [KIPP] by JAY MATHEWS

Persistence can be encouraged when the learning :

1. challenges enough but is within competency level to achieve flow-exams/tests/questions.
2. meets the 3 dominant learning styles:winging before,charge into mid crisis,aftermath analysis.
3. allows true understanding-force them to anticipate the actual action of theory by introducing 3 flaws in the lecture to be deciphered by them.
4. accounts individual student’s performance feedback to work on weaknesses.
5. facilitates accountability & sharing knowledge through collaboration:seminars,sessions.

Self-assurance, not self-awareness drives performance.

Filed under: DISCLOSURE, UNIVERSAL , EDUCATION, IDEA, LEARNING, MENTORING, TEACH

LAGGING BEHIND SIGNS & SOLUTION.

 

DID YOU EVER CAUGHT YOURSELF IN THESE SITUATIONS-

You felt your brain’s ability to churn ideas is slow & limited, unlike the prodigies.

 

 

You reached a stuck point in life when thoughts stopped flowing or you were too frail & plaint that it seemed you can’t make it. 

 

 

No matter how hard you thought, feeling true to the suffering you endured, there wasn’t a proof that you grasped a rational insight.

 

 

All the conditioning you inevitably went through put so many bugs that you felt difficult to choose without a slanted view.

 

 

The likelihood of getting the full picture is narrowed ’cause you couldn’t be omnipresent.

 

 

 

WHAT’S THE SOLUTION: INVEST TO UPGRADE-

Gaining knowledge by reading far & low improves our probability of winging life’s opportunities. 

Reading provides us with pegs of information which accelerate our thoughts to reach a destination.

 

The more complete information we have the better the chances we hit the bull’s eye.

 

It may open the gates to an unthought of view or a retro-perspective whose insights give an edge to our circumstance.

 

Increased awareness about ourself & outside world lets us choose better.

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , FAILURE, FEEL, GROWTH, IDEA, SELF-HELP, STUCK

DON’T MIND GETTING FOOLED ONCE….

When you clarify from the same person about whom your assumptions are based upon, you gain not getting confused repeatedly.

You express your doubt & you get a non-affirmative answer, but you know the person is lying, then take it easy this time. Let the person take a chance in self-defence.

Now that the person made it clear/bluffed that its your fallacy, you can start tallying that person from now onwards to not get fooled the second time.

If they err again, they’ll prove themselves a liar on a temporary fix. But I doubt they’ll err again, since the fear they experienced while self-defending themselves might have alerted them to strive to live up to their statement……& what else do you genuinely want than seeing them reform without dipping their self-esteem.

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , IDEA

INITIATIVE – DECISION DILEMMA.

Based on congenital or pre-adolescence factors deciding your personality, automatic pop-ups of biased interpretations & emotions to a thought/idea occur, which could be:

1. IRRATIONAL- interpretations consisting of inter-contradictory choices, which force you to stay indecisive. When too young to think all by yourself, your subconscious learnt this tangling from others’ irrational reasoning/judgements. This learned helplessness creates fear of unknown/future & cravings of desperate needs of clarity,able to influence others,happiness dependent on external events. You automatically start acting unpredictable/meek/anxious/neurotic.
2. SNAPPY- obsessed with negative warp thoughts, you ruminate on how you are feeling instead of doing something to improve the way you are feeling. This inertia of inaction starts churning fear of chaos & a need of authority/approval/love. You start acting screwed/non-assertive/stressed-out/shy/depressed.
3. GRANDEUR- obsessed with a spree of fame/power/money (external aspirations), you create for yourself inadequacies in self-growth,relations,societal contribution (internal aspirations). This creates fear of insignificance,lowering of self-esteem & increases cravings of respect/success/perfection. Unfulfilled they start becoming slackened/narcissistic/egoistic/aggressive/impulsive/hostile/distrust,resent,grudge others.

All these increase the need of feeling deserving.To get out of this vicious feeling rut:

• Acknowledge the negative thoughts, to juxtapose with conscience, in order to  listen completely to that auto talk of void.

• Consciously choose to dispute those warp thoughts & needs, by competing contrary evidence for creating a positive view of self & future.

• Elicit a single, specific, modifiable cause or a next shortest action achievable outside your comfort zone to reach your goal.

• Check 3 requirements: no greater consequences of loss,conscience hurts to see it undone even after a long time span, passionate for ecstatic flow of contributing to a higher cause/discovering insights into truth/happy memories of relatedness.

• If all 3 are met, go ahead  with the initiative. Using positive language (I want to do…,I’m going to…,I will…,) & a Di-dynamic strategy to stay in flow when facing either of these mental states:

1. When stressed or screwed up: zoom away by socializing/humor,sublimate by mind-storming positive reasons for completing the task,focus on one action pathway,lower the standards to just needed requirements & do leisurely without a set time-limit.
2. When feeling demotivated or slackened: zoom in with a calm,serious attitude & critically debug your excuses & commit completing task in one sitting, exploring new tools & increase your standards towards good enough with a set time limit.

• If you are not able to start on or unable to escape an adversity, hang on using humor /creativity/sublimation/integrated thinking to learn anything in that paralysed situation by committing to be part of the solution.

Filed under: INITIATIVES, UNIVERSAL , IDEA, PRODUCTIVE