EMOTIONAL CONTROL MYTH

when we are unhappy, we crib & call that a shit moment.

Instead, without getting entangled in those temporary negative emotions :

• respect the situation to see what insight you can grasp or specific steps  to mitigate it.
• isolate that shit,keep patience to let it pass…in the while recall happy moments!
• zoom out for perspective focusing on the goals/passions we want to pursue.

emotional control is not not feeling emotions at all, it is adept handling of feelings to drink life to our fullest of interests.

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , DECISION, FEEL, SENSITIVE

LAGGING BEHIND SIGNS & SOLUTION.

 

DID YOU EVER CAUGHT YOURSELF IN THESE SITUATIONS-

You felt your brain’s ability to churn ideas is slow & limited, unlike the prodigies.

 

 

You reached a stuck point in life when thoughts stopped flowing or you were too frail & plaint that it seemed you can’t make it. 

 

 

No matter how hard you thought, feeling true to the suffering you endured, there wasn’t a proof that you grasped a rational insight.

 

 

All the conditioning you inevitably went through put so many bugs that you felt difficult to choose without a slanted view.

 

 

The likelihood of getting the full picture is narrowed ’cause you couldn’t be omnipresent.

 

 

 

WHAT’S THE SOLUTION: INVEST TO UPGRADE-

Gaining knowledge by reading far & low improves our probability of winging life’s opportunities. 

Reading provides us with pegs of information which accelerate our thoughts to reach a destination.

 

The more complete information we have the better the chances we hit the bull’s eye.

 

It may open the gates to an unthought of view or a retro-perspective whose insights give an edge to our circumstance.

 

Increased awareness about ourself & outside world lets us choose better.

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , FAILURE, FEEL, GROWTH, IDEA, SELF-HELP, STUCK

MY HATE BUSTERS

I use these reasoning’s to not feel the toxic hate:

1. Normal human psychology is predisposed to think/react emotionally & it is difficult to attain the rational-sensitive balance in thoughts. So have patience & forgive.
2. The high I get by acting on my own view with others well-being in mind & not retaliating emotionally prevents hate from surfacing. Reject the charged emotions & figure out how to stay not engulfing.
3. State with care in order to clarify the facts not considered by the critic. Or “I DON’T KNOW” “I’LL ALWAYS BE READY TO OBLIGE A BETTER ADVICE”.
4. Twist their criticism as a good intention & reflect back to them as that’s what i interpreted of their criticism.
5. Find something I can appreciate in the other person & Agree with any truth in the criticism.
6. I worship my mind’s clarity & flow of thoughts, so I’ll avoid thinking about the hater by replacing with a good feeling from completing a long pending task or creating something interesting or reading something new.
7. When my ANGER is provoked, I’ll forget the direct criticism which hurt me personally &  target the radical problem/ignorance.
8. I love myself for I didn’t resort to hatred.
9. I read Linda Goodman’s ‘love signs’ to zoom away by reflecting that people have varied personalities  that often leads to misunderstandings due to failure of not able to empathize with others perspective.
10. I read OVERCOMING BIAS blog to get that humble high of getting debugged from Elizer Yudkowsky’s posts & that I’m more bothered to understand the tough stuff on human biases than to live on lower feelings like hatred.

Filed under: DISCLOSURE, UNIVERSAL , FEEL, HATE BUSTERS

WHY I SAY “NO” TO HERD UNITY HAVING NO PURPOSE

Herd unity accepts a person as long as there is no threat to self-defences. It is mere concentration on oneself or other’ self in the group with no aim of empowering.

But a community with a purpose aims at empowering each one while serving a higher cause. Higher purpose gives resolution to learn continuously, while, others are a source for developing our sensitive conscience. This bonding of knowledge & sensitivity gives the satisfaction of a meaningful life.

Filed under: DISCLOSURE, UNIVERSAL , CAUSE, DECISION, DIRECTION, FEEL, PURPOSE, TORCH BEARER

WHY DO I FEEL DIFFICULT TO CONFINE READILY

I don’t confine myself in every other person I know, for these reasons:

• I never felt they are able enough- many don’t know how to see the other person’s reality, they merely listen to jut out a quick fix out of their egos to satisfy themselves. Able ones are those insightful people with both life experiences & knowledge in wide areas.
• I trust few- I came across many as with no sincere intention but who just say yeses to only get the information out of me & end the dialogue with a cruel joke or to make it a topic of their gossip for allaying boredom.

Filed under: DISCLOSURE, UNIVERSAL , FEEL

DWELLING ON FEELINGS

DEEP NOT SUPERFICIAL RUMINATION ON FEELINGS DEVELOPS INSIGHTS.

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , FEEL, INSIGHT, TURBULENCE

GOODNESS

Ability to recognize excellence or any of the other 24 character strengths represents the GOODNESS in a person which is inherent and permanent.The imbalances of knowledge & ignorance obscure this goodness.

THE ONLY GOOD IS KNOWLEDGE , THE ONLY EVIL IS IGNORANCE.

Caring attitude & a know-how of normal human psychology should be the two prerequisites for joining clinical medical field & must be acquired to make a productive society.

SENSITIVE attitude can recognize inadequacies and misunderstandings & RATIONAL COURTEOUS behavior can allay them with little stress.

Filed under: UNIVERSAL , FEEL

AMBIKA’S INITIATIVE

i’m blogging to increase my awareness/sensitivity for autonomous behavior by:

1. capturing thoughts
2. organizing ideas
   
3. formulating action steps
4. expressing clearly

Filed under: DISCLOSURE , FEEL