Grit is showing up again and again to get really good at a specific passion by taking long enough time and continuous effort.

Not swerving from the big picture by restraining from jumping goals. Forcing to think of goals as continuous process and not as a single glamorous sprint.
Motivating yourself by relying on effort and nt contending in your abilities.
Sustenance for the finishing 1000th step than the impulsive 1st step for strict consistency. Then , success becomes a matter of when,not if; inevitable,not luck

Nobody is talented enough to not have to work hard, and that’s what grit allows you to do.

Cultivating a gritty attitude:

1. try to make it on your own.Cut your purse strings and sponsors.[could be unrealistic in some instances]
2. clarify your goals, initially choose more attainable goals.
3. do only 70% capturing core concepts, possible in this given time. later fill-up the gaps during more relevant specific pursuits.
4. refuse interruptions, decline all that that doesn’t entertain your strengths.
5. use antidepressants for more general low mood.
6. gain knowledge through spaced repetitions. Work steadily. Never resist sleep when tired.
7. after experimenting with different strategies[routines,chunking to easiest starting task,deleting temptations], choose one that lowers your burn rate in the long run. Preserve health.
8. do not let external incentives to choke out your intrinsic motivations.
9. know the worst case, to control and work on ways to extend the deadline to current lifestyle [from debt,overwork, lack of growth].
10. think of inspiring daily heroes.

Navigating a storm:

1. Decide to enhance your leadership skills by testing yourself in the thick of crisis which is superior than leading in good times or studying others navigating troubled times.
2. Be willing to ask for help. Going alone won’t be effective; rely on a mentor, an internal management group and an external support group.
3. Stay true to your principles and implement permanent solutions without masking real problems to ensure a long lasting recovery and a sustainable future.
4. Express your vulnerabilities, concerns, doubts. This encourages potentially unforeseen problems to be voiced sooner.
5. Aggressively take action to make major changes that strengthen the organization, since it’s a rare opportunity of lessened resistance than at good times.
6. Rethink your industry’s strategy on the changing needs of your customers in these bad times.
7. Launch an unconventional strategy to emerge as a leader.
8. Make your strengths the basis of competition while exposing the competitor’s weaknesses. Go on offence to win now and reshape the market to play to your strengths.
9. Eliminate your weaknesses [slow bureaucracy] to be competitive.
10. Apart from keeping afloat, devise a post-crisis’s strategy.
11. Stress on sound execution. Assign the best people and keep them accountable for completion of tasks upto the minute detail while always keeping plans flexible and consistent to changing times.

There are opportunities that will be created that don’t even exist yet. Just be there. They’ll come. We are all on the road, and the end is not fixed.

• cognitive dissonance, refers to what we do when our beliefs and actions misalign. When we can’t change the cold, hard facts, we change our beliefs! [eg. when a girlfriend makes her lover wait or fret for her, he will rationalize it by deciding he loves her]
• confronted with one disruption to our daily routine, we become more open to other changes. When things break, we enter the right mind-frame for breaking our old habits as well.
• comparison with context helps us to understand how much we love or value something or willing to care for someone. Context moulds our perseption [eg. same food portion in a small plate rather than a big plate, satietes more]
• happiness depends on what we can easily imagine/avail & the ‘don’t have state’ is more easily imaginable but after getting it we adapt overtime to the new level of stimulation.
• anchoring is the seeding of a NEW initial desicion that influences future decisions to will into a string of habit.
• product framed as ‘free’, is more attractive with only upside, than discounting/free shipping/removing taxes.
• social force & market force are not additive, when one comes other one goes away. Social norms protect, build trust & confidence, so hiding money[market norm] inefficiently in the form of gifts[social norm] is a good deal since valuable relationships are preserved.
• emotions are a crucial driver & multiventer.[eg. in hot state, the promises previously made in cold state(like adhering to condoms) are broken]
• heightened sensitivity to short-term, make us forget the longterm goals. Some frailabilities[like procrastination] can be overcome if we give them the right tool [like option of presetting a deadline with a downside for failing to attain it].
• the buyer & seller have 2differrent perspectives not on what they give & get in the transaction but focusing more on what they tend to give up. So seller has a higher price for giving up ownership.
• fear of loss/ giving up options makes us think that more options/flexibility is better. So when other doors are threathened to disappear, we try to open to keep the options open rather than dedicate all attention,energy,affection to the one [eg.relation] that stands long chance of survining.
• reality gets reinforced/influenced by what we expect of it [placebo effect].

Bottom line: You can’t motivate people. If you want people motivated to do a good job, give them a good job to do, set up conditions to maximize the chances that they develop genuine interest. We are more likely to do constructive things like exercising when given choices. We can better tolerate noise, cold, and electric shock if we know we have the power to end them.

1. Don’t just lecture on the right way to do things, take into account their own perspectives, view points, ways of making sense & formulating meaning. Revise their original thinking. Don’t just correct them, figure out why they occur. Make collaboration the rule.
2. If children feel safe, they can take risks, ask questions, make mistakes, learn to trust, share feelings, and grow. If they are taken seriously, they can respect others. If their emotional needs are met, they can meet other people’s needs.
3. First be a person, rather than playing a role. A PERSON gets distracted or tired, makes mistakes, asks for opinions, has interests outside of parenting and teaching, and doesn’t mind discussing them.
4. Set an example. Show kids that you enjoy reading and other intellectual pursuits. Admit when you don’t know something. Demonstrate tenacity in the face of failure. Question conventional wisdom. Show how to make sense of a piece of writing that is hard to understand. Telling them, “If I ever say something to you that embarrasses or hurts your feelings (which I may do sometimes because I’m not perfect) please let me know” sets an example of courage as well as concern.
5. If we want a child to take responsibility for their own behavior, we must give them responsibility. A child learns to make decisions by making decisions, not by following directions. Give them a chance to help themselves. Rushing in to help teaches them that an adult will always take care of everything.