You are who you know : what clusters you want to be in, who is the hub or which connector knows the hub?
- And this is a small world with at least the possibility to reach people within a reasonable number of steps [Law of 6 degrees of separation].
- And networks evolve, your world changes and you yourself change.
So the key in networking is:
- Repeated interactions over time can only occur when based on deals or liking each other. So get active with people who you like or who love you or atleast with whom you can make an honest exchange or a deal, then you may enjoy getting invitations!
- He who starts early, gets the most.
- Ones who are relaxed, humorous, friendly will make more connections. Fit get richer. Likable people are easy to relate to. They’ve learned how to explain their passions and drives in a way other people can readily understand.
- The larger and more active your network, the more likely that you will be tipped off. Team performs better when each of its members is able to act as a source of information from ‘places far away’. So just go and have a nice time within as many different closed groups as you can, be active in multiple cliques, search them in a variety of ways using your multifaceted identity.
- Givers get. That is the paradox of profit : Everyday support is more like giving an idea, a helping hand, a listening ear, a tip. Emergency support is, for instance, bringing someone home when his or her car is broken or lending a person a considerable amount of money to get a business started. Give with pleasure,unconditionally,treat others the way they want to be treated. But give respectfully, to the receiver and to yourself. And you’ll be given valuable information, moral supprot and any other kind of help.
- Those who have personal connections in common feel a stronger bond and are thus more likely to be supportive of each other. When the network owes support to an individual, the individual doesn’t need to depend on ties with specific other individuals who owe reciprocity. Your reputation travels ahead of you. You do not have to be a best friend, just another weak tie can get you to the hub and these vague references are less risky too!
- Trusted weak ties provide the most useful knowledge. Trust here means benevolence-based trust (the person cares about me) or competence-based trust (this source approaches things with professionalism and dedication). Therefore, when looking for what you need, look for weak ties in a caring or a professional and dedicated environment.
- And what you need to send out across is a sensible crisp request repeatedly to stand a chance of being passed on while at least reflecting your original intention: specific, short, memorable, first in a series, contains an element of movement, uses labels and familiar symbols, gives an idea of the relative importance of its different components, invoking further explanation.
- Lack of initiative or interest or incentive was by far the most important reason for chains failing to reach the target. And longer chains become less effective since you haven’t built up a relationship with that farther person. The friend of a friend of a friend does not know you or your friend.
I think these tips would root-out learned helplessness.
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