When someone close to you is unable to pull themselves out of, something more serious than a passing emotional distress, what can you do to mitigate the suffering?
GET THEM RIGHT:
First keep in mind, how any human mind in distress is susceptible to behave :
- everything is out of control & see false patterns,illusions,conspiracies.
- tend to feel lonely & any attempt to get back on track looks hopeless.
- unable to cope with day-to-day life.
- labile & fragile extreme emotions-angry/frightened/aggressive/hostile/depressed/suicidal.
- unpredictable/unacceptable behaviour & refuse to accept anything is anyway unusual.
GET THEM SPEAK UP:
So, to personally know the contextual thoughts & inevitable feelings,actions , they should be roused to confine.
Hence, it helps to give support by being an empathetic listener who can reassure & encourage, to slowly pull them into good spirits.
Accept them by acknowledging but don’t tell them how they should feel or what they should do. Advising on how to solve competently, easily rebuffs someone who has lost self-confidence.
Don’t be over optimistic to waive off their problems. Help them solve themselves bite by bite.
GET THEM MOVING:
Appreciate even small successes or any positive direction they already took & make it a celebration.
To make them regain control & feel empowered ask them what they wish from others, from you & from their life.
Speak on their behalf & stand up for their rights. This advocacy will blossom hopes in them & strength to take on their life.
Give practical help in everyday tasks to preserve the basic structure of life. But do not do more than is necessary as it might increase the person’s feelings of inadequacy.
As they conquer challenges within their present transient low ability, their self-confidence increases & simultaneously their competencies reach normal levels.
GET THEM SMILING:
Make them feel secure & loved by holding hands,hugs. This’ll help them regain trust in the world around.
Help them forget their problems for a while & alleviate stress through laughter,films,amusing memories.
But don’t coax to the extent that you put them under pressure to “pull themselves together”.
Don’t shy away from resorting to Medical professional help if these changes don’t yield improvement. When positive internal dialogues are’nt helping, Anti-depressants,anxiolytics help acting like a scaffold for the optimum life structure from collapsing into tragic loses.
Filed under: UNIVERSAL , EMPATHIZE, EMPOWER, ENCOURAGE, RELATE, SENSITIVE, SUPPORT
