INITIATIVE – DECISION DILEMMA.

Based on congenital or pre-adolescence factors deciding your personality, automatic pop-ups of biased interpretations & emotions to a thought/idea occur, which could be:

1. IRRATIONAL- interpretations consisting of inter-contradictory choices, which force you to stay indecisive. When too young to think all by yourself, your subconscious learnt this tangling from others’ irrational reasoning/judgements. This learned helplessness creates fear of unknown/future & cravings of desperate needs of clarity,able to influence others,happiness dependent on external events. You automatically start acting unpredictable/meek/anxious/neurotic.
2. SNAPPY- obsessed with negative warp thoughts, you ruminate on how you are feeling instead of doing something to improve the way you are feeling. This inertia of inaction starts churning fear of chaos & a need of authority/approval/love. You start acting screwed/non-assertive/stressed-out/shy/depressed.
3. GRANDEUR- obsessed with a spree of fame/power/money (external aspirations), you create for yourself inadequacies in self-growth,relations,societal contribution (internal aspirations). This creates fear of insignificance,lowering of self-esteem & increases cravings of respect/success/perfection. Unfulfilled they start becoming slackened/narcissistic/egoistic/aggressive/impulsive/hostile/distrust,resent,grudge others.

All these increase the need of feeling deserving.To get out of this vicious feeling rut:

• Acknowledge the negative thoughts, to juxtapose with conscience, in order to  listen completely to that auto talk of void.

• Consciously choose to dispute those warp thoughts & needs, by competing contrary evidence for creating a positive view of self & future.

• Elicit a single, specific, modifiable cause or a next shortest action achievable outside your comfort zone to reach your goal.

• Check 3 requirements: no greater consequences of loss,conscience hurts to see it undone even after a long time span, passionate for ecstatic flow of contributing to a higher cause/discovering insights into truth/happy memories of relatedness.

• If all 3 are met, go ahead  with the initiative. Using positive language (I want to do…,I’m going to…,I will…,) & a Di-dynamic strategy to stay in flow when facing either of these mental states:

1. When stressed or screwed up: zoom away by socializing/humor,sublimate by mind-storming positive reasons for completing the task,focus on one action pathway,lower the standards to just needed requirements & do leisurely without a set time-limit.
2. When feeling demotivated or slackened: zoom in with a calm,serious attitude & critically debug your excuses & commit completing task in one sitting, exploring new tools & increase your standards towards good enough with a set time limit.

• If you are not able to start on or unable to escape an adversity, hang on using humor /creativity/sublimation/integrated thinking to learn anything in that paralysed situation by committing to be part of the solution.

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